I am gay. I am an atheist. I live in the United States.
Together, these things make for an interesting cocktail of situations. The United States is a majority Christian nation. Every nation is a majority heterosexual nation. As it stands, though, there are probably more gay Christians in this country than gay non-Christians.
I am not here to convert gay Christians away from their faith. I am here to represent the gay, atheist position.
I have been out publicly as gay for more than two years now. At 29, I came out late in comparison to some, early in comparison to others. My personal story will gradually become exposed as this blog grows, and I tackle the subjects I wish to address one-by-one. But to put it simply, I didn't have a private gay life before that, either. I was not willing to admit my sexuality to myself.
I did, however, topple the religious house of cards I had been raised in well in advance of coming out to myself. I would say it was instrumental in finally coming out that I also be an atheist.
I have found a great deal of support from many sources; friends, family, acquaintances, and coworkers. The one place where support is troublesome is from my parents.
I have heard many positions on how to deal with this. They range from, "just live your life as you are and let them learn that this is who you are," to, "your presence in their life is your only leverage, and you should use it."
Before bridges are burned, I'd rather make an effort to convey understanding. But finding compelling, gay, atheist literature is difficult. So much of what I find has the right tone, and the right message, and suddenly, the Christian god is thrown right in the middle of it. How am I going to help my parents understand me with source material that doesn't represent me?
So, this blog has two purposes. One, stop looking for other people to be my voice. Two, represent the gay, atheist position, and provide atheist-focused writing for other gay atheists who want to be understood in the context of the person they are, rather than having to work around a theistic message.
I hope you'll stick around.